Wow! Can you believe January is almost over?!? Starting a new year often brings with it resolutions and promises to do things one normally wants to do but can’t for whatever reason. It’s no secret that a person can be their own worst enemy. This year, I’ve tried to be realistic about writing and personal goals.
I have writing goals ~ thing like write a book a month or write 5000 words a day. Those type of things. But this year, I added an extra item and this goes for all areas of my life: Learn something new. I feel that no matter what you promise yourself, if you can’t learn something new every day to help you attain those goals, then they probably won’t happen.
I understand you think that’s rather harsh but statistics say that over 60% of our resolutions don’t make it past the promise stage. In another report, I read that only 8% of us ever keep our resolutions, which means 92% of us either never make them or make them then promptly ignore them. In the process of putting down my 2015 goals on paper, I learned the rate of failure and I also learned the two top things to make them happen. And they are two things I know I can make happen.
The first one is simple: Be realistic. All goals are based in realism or should be. When doing my goals, I look to make them an average of the best I can do and the worst I can do, which for me is nothing. I can sit around like a lump, watching TV or reading or something that isn’t propelling me forward. Or I can choose to be what I want to be.
The second one, while simple, can be daunting for someone like me: Start small. I tend to do things on a grand scale. I love to do series with lots of books, I love to write huge books, I love to redecorate a whole room, lose 20 pounds in the shortest time possible and on and on. However, I am constantly reminded that every journey starts with just one step. Just one tiny thing to get us going. There’s no problem in taking bigger steps at some point but to get the steps started, do the small things. Like planning just one book, just one room item, just one pound. Once you accomplish that one tiny task, start working up to the bigger things.
Goals, and resolutions for that fact, aren’t meant to make you unhappy. They are meant to be a guideline for the journey you’re taking. And guidelines are just that, nothing more. They are meant to guide you toward your goals. Not drag you kicking and screaming because then you have to look at the fact that maybe you really don’t want that goal.
So, what were your goals for the New Year?
Here’s wishing you all the best in 2015! See you next month!