It’s only a number…

PartyToday’s my birthday. It’s a milestone birthday for me, it’s a number that in some ways has intimidated me and seemed a little scary not all that long ago.

Somewhere between the birthday wishes, the cakes and the presents…I’ll probably find a quiet little corner to reflect on the number of years that have gone by. I keep telling myself, “It’s just a number.”

I’ve spent more than half those years happily married. I have three wonderful children. I’ve moved across country from the east coast to the west and then back again. I’m blessed to have friendships that have lasted since elementary school and I’ve also been blessed with the pain of letting of some friendships go – they’ve all made me who I am today, so I’ve made my peace with that.

I’ve had successes and failures. I’ve had money and been broke. I’ve had my share of fights and wonderful memories that could fill dozens of scrapbooks. And every single moment becomes the threads of a rich tapestry that defines ME.

Those moments in time shape my characters, weave through plots and allow me to tell a tale that is uniquely mine.

It’s my voice. So tonight, while I sit at my dining room table surrounded by my family, I’ll attempt to blow out my candles before the fire department needs to be called to douse the blaze. Today I celebrate not only a number, but all the moments I am grateful for that have crafted the life I love.

“I am more and more convinced that our happiness or unhappiness depends far more on the way we meet the events of life, than on the nature of those events themselves.” ~ Baron Alexander von Humboldt

  So what do you think? Do the big number birthday’s scare you or do you embrace them?

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About Debora Dennis

A believer in second chances and that time should never be an obstacle to finding love, Debora writes time travels with modern snark and spice! When she's not writing, she's spending time with her family, reading, or trying to figure out a way to get chocolate into every dish she serves.

6 Responses to It’s only a number…

  1. Moira says:

    I saw this and it made me think of you, Deb!

    “Cakes are special. Every birthday, every celebration, ends with something sweet, a cake, and people remember. It’s all about the memories.” ~ Buddy Valastro

    The big numbers definitely scare me. I don’t know why, because you’re right, they are just numbers. And I tend to reflect on the years and annalyze. That’s usually when I sit down with a Guinness and throw numbers out the window!

    Have a great birthday and create great memories and more threads in your tapestry of life!

  2. Sutton Fox says:

    Don’t like them much. lol. Can’t change them though, and they don’t scare me. It’s just that there’s so much more I want to accomplish and they make me aware of the passage of time.

    You have a beautiful tapestry! What a fantastic visual. Enjoy your special day!!

  3. Toni Whitmire says:

    Happy Birthday and big numbers don’t scare me it just make love what I have like memories longer.

  4. Donna Coe-Velleman says:

    Hope you had a wonderful birthday. I’ve passed that marker eight years ago. 50 didn’t bother me much. It’s the 60th and 70th ones that are making me a bit wary. lol

  5. Molly McLain says:

    My next big bday will be 40 and that scares the bejeezus out of me. Thankfully, I’ve got close to 5 years until that happens. But still scary as heck. I completely appreciate the perspective you’ve taken, Deb–it’s much nicer to look at all we’ve accomplished–but it’s HARD sometimes to do that. I think, for me, part of the problem is I haven’t done nearly the amount of things I thought I would at this point in my life. So…guess I better get working on that, huh? Good thing I’ve got some time before the next scary bday comes around. 😉

  6. Lynn Crain says:

    I’ve been in the big numbers for a few years and you are absolutely right. It is just a number. It’s all about your attitude and how you embrace the moments of your life. I remember a lyric from a song I heard in my teens. Of course it was a love song but it goes something like this: Life is just what you make it, life is just what you want it be…

    There can’t be a more true statement. It’s all in how you look at things. Hope your birthday was wonderful!

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