Wedding… eh

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I’m going to step over a few boundaries…being a romance writer and all…and I’m going to blog about why the wedding just isn’t the Cat’s Meow [for me, anyway]. An era [or two] ago, the wedding was the pinnacle, the day girls dreamed about…the brass ring [or the gold one].

I’m a huge advocate for weddings. I’ll admit to crying when I go to them. I love the dancing, the food, the dressing up. If you’re lucky…free drinks, too!

But, the truth is… It’s a day, a start to something much bigger.

[Disclaimer –>] Its importance [for me] is the sacrament it brings to the relationship, the Grace of a blessing from above [cuz most of us need that like air to breathe]. Perhaps if you’re not Christian the importance might be the legal binding it adds to the relationship… or the tax break. 😉

But as a married person, the wedding day seems more like the catalyst to everything else. As a writer, I believe that it’s the journey, not the goal, that is important. That being the case, the wedding is…eh. Wear white, wear red, wear black. None of that will change who you are and how you’ll need to change or grow in order to live in peace with your best friend. It won’t change the trials you go through, the highs of being in love, and the lows of being hurt.

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When I finish a story and I think to myself… epilogue or no epilogue??? I’ll tap my pencil on my desk and think. What do I want to show? It’s NEVER the wedding day. It’s always beyond that…to the real HEA. The joys of married life and having someone beside you through thick and thin.

About Beth Rhodes

Beth jumps into life with both feet...or head first. Impulsive and spontaneous to a T, she joined Passionate Critters and never looked back. She loves writing and reading, which made this wonderful group of woman a perfect match for her.
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10 Responses to Wedding… eh

  1. So true! It’s the marriage, not the wedding, that really matters.

  2. True that, Bethanne!! I just couldn’t imagine myself, or my parents, going into debt to make that one day special. That money could go into the house, savings, the future… The money spent might as well be flushed down the toilet if the marriage foundation isn’t strong enough to keep it together.

    The same goes with our manuscripts. All the time we spend writing is worthless if we don’t put that extra effort into the foundation of our story…making it strong enough to last through to The End. 😉

  3. Clarissa Yip says:

    Totally agree! Weddings are a start of a journey. 🙂

  4. Nina Croft says:

    Well said, Bethanne, and so true that people need to be willing to change and grow in order to live happily with another person. And I love epilogues that show the real HEA!

  5. Very true, after the wedding the real “work” begins because the truth is that people continually grow and change. I definitely love a good epilogue showing the couple making it work!

  6. Jennifer Shirk says:

    Aww…love that!

  7. Sutton Fox says:

    Ultimately, it’s the relationship that’s most important. One would hope if there’s actually a wedding, that those issues have already been sorted, which is what makes the day so happy.

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