Say No to the (Cookie-Cutter) Wedding

cookiecutterMy wedding was disastrous, mostly because I just wanted to be married. And we were very broke. My dress was horrifically ugly, my husband drank a six-pack of beer before (I told him then this was not grounds for taking it back), the decorations and cake were a wedding gift from friends who knew we’d never pull it off otherwise. But, I didn’t choose any of it. As the years go by, I realize how not me (or him) it was. I threaten often to renew our vows in an Elvis impersonator ceremony, in Vegas. Maybe this explains my passion for great weddings.

My cousin recently remarried the love of her life. It’s a long story (and not mine, so I won’t tell it), but romance novel worthy. Here’s the thing: it was nothing like a wedding. Nothing. At least not the fairy tale our society and commercial industries spend billions perpetuating.

I hate that we’re raised, as girls, dreaming of this cookie-cutter experience. Every wedding should be individual. That’s my single voice in a chorus of millions saying different.

I’m leaving you with my favorite wedding video. It never fails to make me smile. Because weddings should speak of who the couple is, what their lives have been, and what they hope it will be.


Jill & Kevin’s Wedding Entrance Dance

Don’t forget that every comment this month will be entered to win a $5 Amazon Gift Card from the talented Jennifer Shirk! What’s your great wedding story? I really, really want to know. Feed my wedding story addiction.

About Lori Sizemore

Lover of nail polish, pens, her Kindle, and fresh coffee. She likes romance filled with messy, real characters and lots of snarky banter. Reading was (and still is!) her BFF; when she discovered writing she fell in love. Come for the snark. Stay for the story.
Tagged , . Bookmark the permalink.

9 Responses to Say No to the (Cookie-Cutter) Wedding

  1. I love the video! Too cute! The most memorable moments from our wedding were things that weren’t planned – like the old man photographer who kept hitting on my bridesmaids LOL. Also we told the DJ not to play any cheesy music like YMCA. He did it anyway and it was a blast. Our pastor even got up and danced.

  2. Bethanne says:

    Oh weddings… I threaten the same thing. Let’s do it over! As a matter of fact, we’re going to Vegas for our 15th Anniversary…so there’s hope. On the bright side, our wedding did reflect us. My wonder-woman mother, who put the whole thing together with little help from me, nailed it. Seriously nailed it. A quaint little restaurant in the country, not far from the old, historical church where Matt had grown up. We had a small gathering of friends and family. It was wonderful. Everything about our wedding I don’t like… had to do with our choices. LOL 😀 I hated our honeymoon and plan to do it over someday… but seeing as how we don’t have time or money to really do it right, I’ll wait. Good things come to those who wait, right?

  3. I was in the Air Force and my boyfriend asked me to marry him. I made my own wedding dress, bridal and maid of honor boquet, butteniers for hubby and best man, and mother-in-law corsage from a $1.00 bunch of flowers and some ribbon. I made my own cake. It was held in the base chapel and the reception was in our teeny-tiny apartment. That was 1975. We’re still married.

  4. Nina Croft says:

    We got married very last minute (just before we went to Africa) in a registry office (neither of us is in any way religious) and just close friends and family (I think there were 13 guests!) but it was a great day. Then we went away to this fabulous country house hotel for the weekend complete with four-poster beds. We did manage a proper honeymoon later after we’d been in Africa for a year – we flew out to Mauritius for a month – very romantic!

  5. Sutton Fox says:

    Love the video! I’m so glad the wedding mold is finally being broken. I agree, a wedding should represent the couple, not just tradition.

  6. Looking back on my own wedding there are things I’d do differently, but for the most part the day was a traditional NY wedding, from church to reception…but after watching that video I agree it’s awesome when you can incorporate your own personalities into the day. The only thing I insisted on was attending the cocktail hour with my guests…absolutely not the norm when I was married.

  7. I love the stories! I think everyone remembers the things that make a wedding different. I’m certain this supports my hypothesis…

  8. Jennifer Shirk says:

    I love that!
    I remember I was a bridesmaid for my friend and was really sick and (I think I took too much Nyquil) and felt like I was going to faint in the middle of the ceremony and had to slyly back away and slip out and then run to the bathroom before I puked! Then I quietly came back to stand with them again. I thought I was slick but everybody noticed. LOL

  9. landra graf says:

    I’m getting married for the first time this year, so my wedding story has yet to unfold.

    I hope it will be everything I’m planning, but I’m sure there will be a disaster or two in there. I’m not going for traditional, but what works. I love everyone’s stories and I’m a huge fan of that video too.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

CommentLuv badge

  • OUR LATEST BUZZ!

    The first two books in the Cupid's Cafe series release in June by Lori Sizemore and Landra Graf *** Lori Sizemore's Infamous released on December 14. *** Julie Jarnagin's Cowgirl in the Kitchen is available now. *** Bethanne Strasser LETTERS FROM HOME from Entangled Publishing is available now! *** Nina Croft's latest books, Her Fantasy Husband, a hot contemporary romance from Entangled's Brazen line, and The Order Boxed Set, a compilation of the three full length novels, plus a new novella, exclusive to the boxed set, both released in April 2016 *** Debora Dennis's holiday novella, CUPCAKES & CUPID is available.