Bridezilla or My Fair Wedding?

Looking sweet, but under all that satin and lace was a girl on a mission for the perfect wedding.


This month our theme is weddings and to be honest, bridal reality shows are among my favorites when it comes to guilty pleasures. Probably because I know if those shows were around 26 year ago I could have been a contender for my very own show (yes, I said 26…look at me, I was a BABY!)

What would my show be called? So glad you asked! I bet if you asked my mother, my father, my bridesmaids, my husband and anyone else even remotely associated with my wedding they would all know my favorite three words…so I would call my show, “IT’S MY DAY!”

I watch these popular shows depicting brides acting badly and I cringe. I fought with my mother over the fruit cup appetizers (I wanted salad, she wanted the fruit cup…she won that one) I fought with my sister over dying the shoes to match her maid-of-honor dress (I won) and I fought with my father over everything from the father-daughter dance song to having the entire wedding video taped – something relatively new and expensive 26 years ago (I won those fights too.) I wanted a whiskey-sour fountain at the cocktail hour, and I wanted to attend the cocktail hour…something normally not done at a NY wedding at the time. Yes, I won those arguments too.

I managed to have my fingers in every single aspect of MY DAY and refused to compromise on pretty much anything…talk about being driven and focused. My parents told my husband-to-be that I’d been planning my wedding since I was three and they were probably right. He should have run screaming, but he didn’t. Instead as the true hero he is, he adopted his own three word phrase in response to any question posed, “Whatever Deb wants.”

Gotta love a man who doesn’t interfere with a wedding 23 years in the making. I got my fairy tale wedding and I’m proud to say I didn’t need a reality TV show to do it. I didn’t manage to lose any friends in the process either – which is amazing to me when I look back at the dresses with the huge bows on their asses that I MADE them wear! (Sorry ladies!)

We all made it through MY DAY and it was wonderful. The band, the food and being surrounded by all the people I loved made the day perfect. And even though my father hated the video idea, now seeing those family members no longer with us, alive and enjoying the party, is priceless to him…took him 20 years but he thanked me!

When you watch the wedding shows do you remember how you behaved and think about what you would do differently? Were you a bridezilla?

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About Debora Dennis

A believer in second chances and that time should never be an obstacle to finding love, Debora writes time travels with modern snark and spice! When she's not writing, she's spending time with her family, reading, or trying to figure out a way to get chocolate into every dish she serves.

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About Debora Dennis

A believer in second chances and that time should never be an obstacle to finding love, Debora writes time travels with modern snark and spice! When she's not writing, she's spending time with her family, reading, or trying to figure out a way to get chocolate into every dish she serves.

11 Responses to Bridezilla or My Fair Wedding?

  1. Bethanne says:

    I think I can picture that… not because I’ve seen you be demanding and unbendable, but because you are very driven, goal-oriented, and when you set on a plan, you do it.

    Take this blog for instance. You’ve matured probably, and that’s where the give and take comes from. The willingness to bend and be accountable to others…

    i guess what you’re saying is, we owe it all to your husband? 😀 😉

  2. Jennifer Shirk says:

    Good for you! You should have YOUR day the way you want!
    I was only concerned with my dress, the reception place, and the band. After that, as long as the groom showed up I was happy. LOL

    • My hat was another big problem…I had the blusher part of my veil attached to the hat with a huge hatpin and I made my father practice taking it out before the wedding!

  3. The only things I fought for were the flowers (I wanted pink roses mixed with white in my bouquet. Mom insisted I should only have white) and the date. I got married on a Friday, unheard of 26 years ago.

  4. Sutton Fox says:

    Good for you!! It is mostly about the bride, so it’s great you can look back and have the wonderful memories. Fab post, Deb. 🙂

  5. I was one month shy of my 21st birthday when I got married. I couldn’t even order drink on my honeymoon. 🙂

  6. LOL, Julie! We had a full bar at our wedding. I had to have a couple glasses of wine before I could walk out the door in front of all those people. 😉

    Deb…I don’t think you were a Bridezilla at all. I applaud you for sticking with your “dream” of what you wanted.

  7. landra graf says:

    I concur. I don’t think you were a Bridezilla, Deb. You had a vision and you stuck to it.

    I’m a bit of a control freak about everything, but the plus side is when things go south I’ll be the first to step and say “I screwed that one up.” So I’m fine with the responsibilities of the wedding, but only if they are my way. If I put someone else in charge of something I make sure to point out that I trust their judgement, but the whole kit and caboodle is on them. 🙂
    P.S. I’m having a Thurs. night wedding, which for some reason is some big taboo… I guess.

  8. Clarissa Yip says:

    Glad you had the wedding you wanted! It was definitely your day! And as long as you were happy, I think that’s all that matters!

    P.S. You look gorgeous in your picture! LOVE the dress and your bouquet!

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