5 Things NOT To Do When Planning a Wedding

What do I know about weddings?

Nothing really…

I remember the first time I was asked to be in a wedding, all I could think about was being able to dress up, wear a gown, get my hair and nails done, and whirl around in my dress with one of the groomsman, just like prom! Except I really didn’t get to pick my date. That was interesting.

When my best friend got married, I actually got to help her plan the wedding as her maid of honor, and let me share with you 5 things NOT to do when planning:

1. Listen to everyone but yourself – Yeah, we know there’s all these voices talking to you at once, what you should have, what you shouldn’t have, what needs to be done, what you shouldn’t do. It’s exhausting! But you need to go with your gut and find what you want because it’s YOUR day!

2. Let your mom pick your bridesmaids – Don’t do it! You think I’m joking? If you put all your cousins, sisters, and childhood friends in your wedding party because your mom said so, it may equate to disaster if you’re not close to any of these people! Even if they’re family! Your wedding party should be filled with people you love, people you want to help you celebrate this day by your side, people who are dependable and make sure you are where you’re supposed to be at certain times, people who will contribute to making the day dedicated to you and your love extra special! Remember, this is only once in a lifetime!

3. Wait until last minute – Do you want a nice wedding or something just totally thrown together? Why would you want to be running around crazy right before the big day? I’m telling you, you do not want your wedding to be a nightmarish memory when it could be a day of wonder! Get organize and plan, plan, plan! We waited until two days to look for flowers for the reception and let me tell you…BIG MISTAKE!

4. Forget Dancing! Let’s karaoke! – Um…yeah, all I have to say is DON’T DO IT!

5. Forget about taking care of yourself – It’s your day. It’s your life. As much as planning is important, you still have to remember that your happiness and the future is more important than the wedding itself. So don’t go crazy!

So those are my words of wisdom. Planning weddings even though they were not mine was fun, and I know for sure I’ll be better prepared when it’s my turn!

What’s your wedding advice?

Wedding Favors I made as the Maid of Honor! It's a lot of work!

Wedding Favors I made as the Maid of Honor! It’s a lot of work!


About Beth Rhodes

Beth jumps into life with both feet...or head first. Impulsive and spontaneous to a T, she joined Passionate Critters and never looked back. She loves writing and reading, which made this wonderful group of woman a perfect match for her.

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About Beth Rhodes

Beth jumps into life with both feet...or head first. Impulsive and spontaneous to a T, she joined Passionate Critters and never looked back. She loves writing and reading, which made this wonderful group of woman a perfect match for her.

18 Responses to 5 Things NOT To Do When Planning a Wedding

  1. LOL. LOVE this post! And my advice? Find that wedding dress and try it on before it’s time to get dressed. I found the dress I wanted…but ordered a smaller size thinking I had plenty of time to diet. The dress didn’t come in until a couple of days before the wedding. I didn’t try it on until I was getting dressed for the wedding. LOL. I was soooo lucky it fit.

    • landra graf says:

      Lol. That’s great tip and one another friend passed onto me. I bought my dress 5 days after getting engaged. I bought it large figuring if I lost weight I could get it altered. Never did lose that weight 🙂 The second fitting is tomorrow.

    • Clarissa Yip says:

      lol. That would have been horrible if it didn’t fit! You definitely got lucky! One of the things that I made a mistake with was the dress I ordered was the wrong color! I ended up buying two dresses for my best friend’s wedding because I was so overwhelmed and hadn’t heard what color she wanted. Okay, I may not have been paying attention. So now I have two green dresses! Ugh!

  2. Nina Croft says:

    Great advice, Clarissa – I was shopping for my wedding outfit the week before…
    Can I be a virtual bridesmaid – when your happy day comes around?

  3. I so agree with the first one. It’s you and your fiance’s day. Not your Mom’s or your friends’.

    I wanted a rainbow wedding, where all my bridesmaids wore a different color (hey, it was the 80’s, don’t judge me :-p) Everyone told me not to do it, but I stuck to my guns, did it anyway and it was beautiful!

  4. Sutton Fox says:

    I would totally agree with listening to your heart, and NOT buckling under the pressure of what everyone else says you should or shouldn’t do. This day is about you as a couple. It should be what you want. Most (not all) relatives are the worst at this stuff. LOL! Excellent advice, Clarissa!

    • Clarissa Yip says:

      Relatives are funny. My best friend had all her cousins in the wedding and that was definitely a nightmare. When one of them backed out last minute because she didn’t want to be in it after we bought her dress, we had to find a stand-in. We were lucky our friend was able to fly across the country to do it! So it worked out for the best. But the stress is so not fun!

  5. Great advice! Mine would be to steal your husband away for a moment of privacy right after the ceremony. One of the best memories of my wedding was driving across town to the reception hall with my husband. It was wonderful just to have a moment alone with him in the midst of all the craziness.

  6. landra graf says:

    Thank you for the tips. I need them. I was thinking about the Karoke, obviously it’s time to scratch that and hire the Deejay. I’ve got about 6 weeks to go until nuptials time. I’m wigging out. 🙂

  7. Jennifer Shirk says:

    Ha! So true! I love those favors!!!

    Also, make sure the band or DJ knows exactly what songs you DON’T want to hear no matter who requests it. LOL

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  9. What a fun post, and I can honestly say I fought for a lot of things at my wedding to make sure it was mine! Landra…Get the DJ and after everyone is drunk, you can add in a little Karaoke for fun at the end 😉 My only advice would be NOT to go with a photographer who’s day job is photographing dead bodies for the homicide squad…yup, been there, done that! 🙂

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